Dear Hal: He has a huge zit!

0 Comments Published by dana March 1st, 2006 in Dear Hal, First Date Episode: 3/1/06

Dear Hal….

Help! EW. EW. EWWWWW….

So, the other night I went on a great date with this guy who I have a super big crush on. He is so hot and I love to just watch him sometimes when we’re together. Great hair, stylish fashion sense, charming, but all night long (over drinks, at dinner, while dancing and even still when he dropped me off) he had a gigantic zit between his eyebrows. E-gads… I was nearly paralyzed at the first glimpse of it. Rather than saying something outright, I thought eventually he’d catch it in the mirror and do something about it, but he never did! I pegged him as an “anti-popper”, which I suppose I can respect… but COME ON! It was HUGE!!! And so visible.
Because I like him soooo much, that he nearly walks on water, this is the closest I have ever come to seeing past this kind of thing, without saying something. I’m feeling a little shy and not at the point where I could reach over and pop it for him… besides, it would probably have popped in my face… EWWWW! And I decided to spare us both the uncomfortable moment, by not pointing it out, but is there anything else I could have done? Like maybe tip the bartender extra to graciously help him “save-face”? What should I do, the next time we go out and he’s decided not to pop Mt. Vesuvius? I don’t think I could endure it time and time again. I see that it could potentially turn into a really serious issue! Is there something wrong with ME?

What should I do?
Distracted Damsel in Disgust!

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Dear Distracted Damsel,

We feel your pain and pop the zit, or at least the zit issue on this week’s podcast. Listen here. If the most likely temporary zit is the worst of your new love’s problems, you are doing pretty well and you should be patient as we all have blemishes from time to time. You can try to nonchalantly help him get rid by sharing your zit tips. Most importantly, you want to make sure he is aware of it and humor is always a good approach. It’s likely he knows about the third eye and is embarrassed about it so make sure you don’t alienate him and keep it lighthearted.

Good luck Damsel in Disgust. Bottom line….if you can’t see beyond his zit….move on in your search for blemish-free perfection. Remember, a person is a package deal; try not to fixate on one aspect, especially something that will change – like a blemish.

Query Hal at dearhal(at)geekrules(dot)com