Geek Rules

This is step 5 in our Back to Basics series. Last Geek Gab you learned how to plan a first date. Now you are on the date! Woot Woot- EXCITING! Don’t screw up now… follow these simple steps to a successful first date.

First, there is the pre-date checklist.

• Remember First Impressions, dress appropriately, shower, brush your hair, shave
• Wallet & money
• Keys
• Phone; on vibrate mode
• Condoms (just in case)
• What to leave home – your ex’s photo from our your wallet and your laptop

Ok, now you are on the date. You need to do the following:

• Relax, laugh, & have fun
• Be polite: open doors, be attentive
• Conversation Tips:

• Ask questions
• Listen to the answers
• Share info about yourself
• Talk about personal things that will help you get to know them better.

• Don’t over drink disproportionately. Your date and you should have similar levels of soberness or drunkenness for the event.
• Pay the bill (if you arranged for the date). Even is she offers to pay, you should pay.

Now it’s the end of the date, a source of stress for many first daters.

• Thank them for a nice time.
• BE HONEST. Tell them you will call them IF you plan to call them. Otherwise, say nothing.

The first date kiss.

• Totally optional.
• If you’re unsure of their interest, you can ask, “Would it be ok if I kissed you?”

That was a perfect first date scenario. What if there is no chemistry or the date goes badly….what do you do?

• A. If you’re not getting along, say goodnight and make sure she gets home ok. This isn’t your fault; not everyone gets along.
• B. If you’re not sure if you get along, it might take a 2nd date to figure it out. This is totally normal.
• C. If the date wasn’t perfect in other regards, like the food was bad or someone got really drunk, laugh about it and ask for a 2nd date!