Geek Rules

After a long hiatus….we’re back. I’d like to say the Geek Julia and I were out of touch on a tropical island or gallivanting around the south of France but in reality life has swept us away a bit. Julia spent a lovely few days in the Desert in Nevada and I spent labor day at home with my redneck family in Maryland eating crabs and watching the tropical storm sink boats in front of my dads house. We’ve also been working tons and of course geeking out here and there and doing field research for the show.

Without further adieu, here is the long overdue and highly anticipated episode 14. Remember JB, the gorgeous Dinner with a Winner contest prize. The winner wins a fun filled evening with JB at the delicious and popular hot spot Sauce, in Hayes Valley.

This week we have two manly contestants vying for JB’s attention.

· Bachelor # 1 – Mike the Traditionalist with a Drug Patent

· Bachelor # 2 – Dan the Biking Man

· Dear Hal- What’s a girl to do about the Peter Pan Syndrome? – Wound up Wendy
Listen to the Podcast for full details and check out the video to match a face with a voice.

Who do you want JB to go out with? Leave your vote as a comment and we’ll tally them up and announce the winner. JB gets a vote too.

Tell us who you like for JB. Both bachelors are phenomenal and we had a lot of fun interviewing them in the studio. Thanks for playing boys!

They are open to other geek-lovers out there so feel free to contact them at info@geekrules.com.

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Happy Geeking!

Bachelor # 1 is the lovely and talented Mike. He is originally from the peninsula and back again – with many places in between.

He’s a charmer and a good listener who likes the good looking ladies in SF and was genetically born to be a geek. This traditionalist just earned a patent and says he’ll measure up to the competition very well.

Bachelor #1 Factoid: His Dad tried to set him up with Katie Couric’s nanny, who apparently is not paid well.

He claims to be free of all Peter Pan-ness and thinks geeks are afraid to approach JB because she’s gorgeous. He reckons she can help the process by making herself open to conversation with eye contact.

Good luck Mike the Harley Traditionalist.

Listen to Mike. Do you like him? Let us know with a comment!

Bachelor #2, Dan, is a relaxed fellow. A busboy turned geek, Dan is starting his own web company on the side. I wonder if it’s web 2.0.

Listen to Dan talk about his comfort zone outdoors and approaching girls in nature.

He reckons guys are too drunk to hit on JB and intimidated by her beauty.

Dan Factoid: Dan rides a bike to work.

Do you dig Dan and his radio voice? Let us know with a comment!

Good Luck Dan the Man!

Been awhile. We have an episode in the works for you kind listeners. If you left a comment on our site, well it may be lost since there was 284 spam comments to approve. So I deleted it all. Keep your eyes and ears peeled to Geekrules! We have video!

Meanwhile here’s something for you geeks to think about.  Recently I went out with a friend of mine and she’s French.  We were talking about how ‘men’ out here don’t seem to mind growing up.  On how dating on the west coast (non-traditional) is different on the east coast (a bit more traditional).  The thing she said that was most interesting about dating in France is that when 2 people kiss- they are girlfriend and boyfriend from that moment.  If things don’t work out after a few days or week, it’s ok and people go their separate ways.

What bothered her is how we do it in the States.  This whole 2 months where you and the guy get to date others and not be commited to anything.  I thought about that for awhile.  Maybe as a country, we’re all commitment-phobes.  I thought about the french way.  Maybe things won’t be as messy if you knew that person was just into you and maybe things are bit more easy and clear cut…no shades of gray.  No “I wonder if he’s seeing someone else too”.

What do you guys thing out there?

This week Geek Rules goes apes with online dating. Listen to Episode 13, the bakers dozen. It features..

• Geek Rules: update
• Dinner with a Winer: Update
• Geek Gab: Online Dating 411

• Station Identification: Perhaps the dorkiest piece in GeekRules history.

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JB is still on the market. We’ve had some really fabulous candidates for JB’s first geek date. We are anxiously awaiting the video version of JB’s interview so you lads can see her in action. Experience the hair toss, watch her eyes sparkle with humor, put a name to a face, live a little.

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Online dating is the 100 pound gorilla in the closet. We all like to pretend it’s not there whilst peeking in on it and tickling its furry armpits every once in while ‘just to see if it works’. In episode 13 of Geek Rules, we explore Where and How to date online.

Where can you find people online? There is no shortage of sites to meet people online. Here are a few GR favorites in the social networking, pure play dating, and miscellaneous categories.

In case you’ve been living under a rock and your geekiness is unrelated to the WWW, Social Networking is an online way to extend your network and reach through spiderwebbing your friends and theirs.

• Tribe.net – SF party crew, a bit underground, great for finding parties and social events.
• Friendster.com: A bit corporate and old school with early adopter users and a less slick GUI than its competitors. Users are older than teenagers in general.
• Myspace.com – Amazingly popular with music groups, fans, and teens.

Pure play dating sites

• Nerve.com – Alternative, edgy, sexually charged.
• Match.com – Mainstream. Abundance of users but the men seem questionable – looking to get laid or plug a wife into their fully baked life.
• eHarmony.com – Terribly long drawn out application that yields few matches because few make it through the application process.

Miscellaneous fun sites to meet people

• Consumating.com – We had consumating.com founder ben brown on GeekRules in January. It’s very web 2.0, slick, and cool but perhaps not the best place to pick up a date.
• Yelp.com – Primarily user contributed restaurant reviews. It’s not *really* for dating but if you’re a foodie you might have some luck.
• Craigslist.org – Personals are a bit dirty now-a-days. Be prepared for a lot of naked penis responses. The anonymousness of it really appealing to the naked folks.

How? Set up a decent profile, hit on people, and proceed to a live meeting.

Set up a profile.

• Photos- Diverse, recent, real.
• Profile- Put some effort into this. Make it interesting and light but say a few ‘real things’. Use it as a tool to attract the people you want.
• Grow your network. Connect to your friends and their friends. The key to social networking is being connected.

Now your profile is up and your waiting for people to approach you. You need to take matters into your own hands as well. Find people you might be interested in.

• Browse through your friends and their networks.
• Search for people with certain hobbies, schools, or interest. For example, search for guys within 10 miles that bike, or girls aged 25-30 that went to Stanford.

Now you’ve identified some targets, how do you approach them?

• Write a short email. This is like saying hi in ‘real life’. Let them decide if they are interested in getting back to you.
• Be patient. Don’t bug them with follow up emails. They may use an old email address in their profile. It may take them awhile (months even) to get back to you. Don’t sweat it.

They wrote back. Now what?

• Once you’ve written a few messages to each other and still have some interest, its time to share your personal email. This makes communication much easier.
• Now it’s time to ask for a real in person date. Use common sense – meet the stranger in a public place and keep it casual (coffee, casual dinner, etc).
• Listen to Our Back to Basics Series for general dating tips.

Have fun. Use your online expertise to score a date.

Dear Hal,

I’m really into this girl at work. She’s new to the office and I think we have some chemistry but she doesn’t seem too interested in dipping her pen in the company ink. Wink wink. What can I do? I’d like to get to know her and I’d like to eventually date her.  Just to complicate things, my co-worker is interested in her too. HELP!

- not getting my honey where I get my money

• Determine if your working relationship with this women could be sexual harassment in any way.  Does either of you have any authority over the other?
• Get her in a group social setting like happy hour or lunch.
• Don’t use your office time to ‘get to know her’. Leave work for work.
• Work friendships often lead to romance later on down the road. Put in the friendship now.
• Office romances can be seductively exciting and secretive.  But a break could yield a break up with the whole company.
• If your company is huge it may not be an issue but keep your professional life in mind.  Perception is reality.
• Regarding your coworker- just get to know the girl in a normal way. Don’t get into a pissing territory match because chances are she won’t date either of you.  Just be a friend and see what happens.

Episode 13 is here!

In this exciting (and slightly biased) episode, we discuss two very hot topics. In Geek Gab, we discuss the how-to’s of online dating. We also have a Dear Hal and it’s about office romance. oo-la-la!

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